Chances are, if you found yourself in the latter category this year, it might just be something to do with your preferred representational system, or rather, the differences between your preferred representational system and that of your partner.

It works by identifying subconscious pessimistic patterns, then zaps them by replacing them with new thoughts and images. A typical example would be the habitual smoker who is prone to lighting up when sipping a morning espresso or a glass of wine at the end of the day. An NLP therapist would program their brain to desire something other than a cigarette at those trigger moments.

NLP is just high-tech hypnosis says, Paul McKenna. Your brain is like a computer, and it?s as if you are installing new software to overwrite programs that no longer work. The key programs of human behaviour are habit and imagination, and they are far more powerful than logic or willpower. I?ve seen people make astounding changes in their thoughts and behaviour quickly.

(Sunday Times – 5th February 2006)

As human beings we very often limit ourselves by our beliefs – that is, we so often look at what we can’t do and don’t want that we forget, or stop believing in what we are capable of. We look at how successful other people are and admire them in a ‘if only that could be me’ way, sending a clear message to our unconscious that we are not capable of achieving the same or better.

As Marianne Williamson said in A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of a “Course in Miracles”:

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

NLP provides tools to understand our model of the world and the structure of our behaviour. With it, you can identify negative thought patterns, limiting beliefs and processes that are inhibiting you and change them.

For more information on NLP and how mental models are formulated, please visit the Neuro Linguistic Programming page of our site.

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